Being Single= Against Status Quo??

When will we learn to love ourselves? When will we be comfortable being alone? When will the world and life stop focusing on being in a couple?

I don't understand why everything and everyone in this life is focused on finding the one and being in a couple, even if he is not the one. I was watching television and this girl is going on about how she isn't with anyone and is still spending her life trying to find that one person. Why should the purposed or goal of one's life be trying to find someone else to complete them.

Growing up we are taught how life "should" be. That we graduate high school. Then go to college. Maybe we finish or maybe we don't, but that is the time when we are supposed to find our other half. Then marriage and then children. Then our lives will be complete and we can finally be happy. Why do our lives have to fit into some formula created by the status quo?

I don't want to focus the best years of my life on trying to find some other person that is supposedly going to complete me. It's hard though. I don't fit into the status quo. I graduated college. I am now going to law school. My goal is to then start practice at my father's law firm. Maybe one day even be a partner with him. I hope to buy a house, on my own, without the help of a man. If a man comes into my life at any point then it will be fine. I just don't want to focus my life on trying to find a man.

My life is about me. No one can complete me. Only I can complete myself. No man can complete me. He may enhance my life, but I don't think he should make or break my life and my happiness. Most women my age are trying to get married and have children. But that is not my path. I want to have a career. I want to be successful. I have chosen a different path than the average 20-something woman.

But the world is still telling me that I should be focusing on finding a man. Family, friends, media, etc. is all saying that the goal of life is to be happily married with children. Why are we listening to this and why are we teaching the younger genreations this? Shouldn't the status quo be finding happiness with one's self and not with one's partner? I can't change the world. All I can try to do is live in it with my ideas on life and try to succeed.

Always- LSG

Yay For Being Single.

So I have kind of been reading this book on and off. I say on and off b/c with school it's hard to find time to really read what I want. But school is over and I can read all I want. Anyway, the book is Better Single Than Sorry by Jen Schefft. She was on the the bachelor and turned down the proposal; then she was on the Bachelorette and didn't ask either guy to marry her. It is a really good book about being a single 20-something and not only accepting it, but being proud and happy about it.

She has this list call "50 Reasons Why It's Great to be Single." I liked it and wanted to share a few of them with you.

-You have no responsibilities to anyone else but yourself.

-You shave your legs only when you feel like it.

- The toilet seat is always down.

- You don't have to watch your boyfriend play video games.

- You have the whole bed to yourself.

- Watching whatever you want on TV.

- No one steals the blanket when you're asleep.

- The alarm clock is set for when you need to wake up, and not earlier.

- You can go to events with friends and not worry about your boyfriend fitting in.

- No guys over for the big game.

- The possibility of meeting someone special.

- You no longer "get in trouble."

-That all-consuming lust that you only experience at the beginning of a relationship.

-The only morning breath you have to deal with is your own.

That's only a few from the list, but I hope it made you smile.

Always- LSG

[all credit for 50 Reasons Why it's Great to be Single to Better Single than Sorry by Jen Schefft, copyright 2007 by Jen Schefft.]

My Personal Time

Warning!!- this post most deffinately had adult material. Read at own risk.

As most twenty-three year olds, I love having sex. And it's not so much the orgasm part, it's more about the intimacy with the other person. I love sex whether I get off or not. It does matter that much to me. When I really want an orgasm though I tend to go it alone. I seem to have a better time at getting it done myself and it is usually more intense. What is really great though is tending to myself while a man is lying in bed next to me holding me.

To get to the point though, the thing about going it alone is that when I am done I always crave the touch of a man. It's not that it makes me more horny and want to have sex after I just... Well it's hard to explain. I just want to touch a man and a man to touch me. Maybe a man to lie next to me and hold me. That's the thing. It's when I am done, I feel kind of sad. Because I want someone next to me so bad. The entire time it is totally cool just being all by myself. Sometimes I even prefer doing the deed all alone, but when it's over I want a man.

Many times when I am finished I start texting John. Sometimes I tell him what I've been doing and other times I don't. Usually I try to make plans to see him later in the week.

I really just wanted to write these feelings down and get them out. Does anyone else understand what I'm trying to say??
Always- LSG

The Adult Warning

I just changed my blog to warn about adult content. I am not saying that this blog is about to go R-rated or anything. It is about a single 20-something though. Sometimes things may get a little sexy, and I don't want to upset anyone. That is why I have added the adult content warning in order to enter the blog. If I do get too R-rated and it becomes offensive let me know in a nice way. I am not here to offend anyone. I am just trying to tell my story. And the story of a 20-something single will sometimes include adult content. Thank you for understanding.

Always- LSG